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Did you know that you can get a free app on your iPhone that will help you locate other singles?

It’s true…apparently.

You fill out a short questionnaire about yourself and what you’re looking for in a match. Then, once you’re out in public and on the prowl, you activate the app, it finds your coordinates and ka-pow! other singles start popping out of the sidewalk.

Yeah, right.  I don’t believe it.  And while I am willing to try a lot of things to meet people, this is one step I am not willing to take.

But I am still really curious…

so who wants to give it a shot and let me know how it goes?

On Friday I wrote about my “Hot in Cleveland” theory.

It goes something like this:

If a woman travels to a new city and receives attention from more men in the new city than she did in her home city is it because she’s hotter or just someone new and different?

What are my thoughts on the subject.

I think it’s a case of yes, but…

Yes, sometimes when women travel to a new city they might get more attention from men than they do in their home city but not because they are hotter than the women who live there but, because…

they might have more confidence as a result of feeling like they have nothing to lose.  They don’t know anyone or care what others think and therefore are freer to be themselves.  And confidence is a great way to attract a man.

they might have a really charming southern accent that makes the hearts of most men melt.

they might be a sun-kissed blond in a sea of pasty skinned brunettes.

Essentially, they might offer something just different enough that they stand out from the crowd.

They may not be “hotter” just different.

I love summer television because it’s mindless and fluffy.

One of my favorite TV shows this summer has been the new Betty White sitcom, Hot in Cleveland.

Three middle aged women from LA survive when their plane crashes in Cleveland.  Their first stop post crash is a bar.  The men flock to them and immediately these ladies discover that while they may be average in LA, they are HOT in Cleveland.  So they move there.  And Betty White becomes their roommate.

Fluff.  Love it.

The premise brings up an intriguing question:

Are these women actually hotter in Cleveland or are they getting attention because (excuse the expression) they are fresh meat?

If a woman travels to a new city and receives attention from more men in the new city than she did in her home city is it because she’s hotter or just someone new and different?

Think about it and let me know your opinion.

I’ve got my own thoughts that I’ll share on Monday.

A new site that I’ve checked out a few times and really enjoy…

www.meghmiller.com

Yesterday’s post was entitled:

Marriage Beats Dating Hands-Down.

I knew it.

Someday I’ll be able to let my stomach out.   Until then I’ll keep holding it in:)

In talking with a good friend from college who is getting back into dating after a few years as a missionary overseas he posed a great question that I’ve been thinking about since our conversation.

How do we convert current methods of communication to understand the intention of someone when it comes to dating?

Back in the 80s (not all that long ago, really) the main way people communicated was via phone or letters.  In today’s culture, the currency of communication is much more confusing.  You can wink, poke, text, email, call, ichat, skype, tweet, dm, im, bbm, etc.  Communication is much faster and easier than ever before, but as a result is it losing its power or importance?

In a relationship communication is key so what does it mean when he or she texts or tweets vs. email or calling?

In my experience (and opinion) a phone call still wins over all other forms of communication.  It’s more vulnerable and authentic as it requires you to be in the moment.  It does not allow you to think about your response, craft the perfect comeback or erase a sentence if you don’t like it.

Here are a few rules of the ring finger (thumbs are for hitchhiking, ring fingers are for love) to follow:

1. Winking and poking are pointless and don’t count unless they are backed up by action.

2. If it’s anything under 140 characters, it’s saying: “I’m thinking of you, but can’t (or won’t) call yet.”

3.  Give grammar and typos a break unless they are really bad and often repeated.

4. One phone call + no voicemail = an email that sits in your draft box waiting to be sent.

5. An email when he’s on the clock at work means he’s thinking of you and taking the time to write you.  You’re a nice distraction.

6. An IM or text conversation is fun, but since it’s missing a key ingredient, tone, I don’t think it counts as a real conversation.

7. Conversation via Ichat or skype is a pseudo date since you’re not breathing the same air.  But if that’s all you’ve got, then I think it’s great!

8. A surprise phone call is a sure sign that they are interested.

9. A phone call when he says he’s going to call is even better.  He’s a man of his word.

10. A hand written letter.  Meet that man at the end of an aisle.  He’s a keeper!